Queen Sugar is one of the few Black shows that leaves no stone unturned, and no topic taboo'd. In the Black community there are plenty of topics that are typically swept under the rug, leaving us all to arrive at our own conclusions in silence. This is why I wanted to use this show to extend the conversation, to aid in unlearning miseducation due to white supremacy. To unlock minds, connect dots, and challenge perspectives.
With these TV analyses, I will be picking a couple concepts from the episodes to discuss. In the two-night premiere of Queen Sugar, I wanted to take a deeper look into the idea of birthing Black babies into oblivion, and boundaries.
Birthing Black Babies into Oblivion
There is so much to unpack from the scene's between Charlie and her mother. From her mother's soured relationship with Auntie Vi and Nova, to how her parenting skills have affected the way Charlie has raised her own child. However, in the spirit of being unfiltered, I want to tap into white women birthing brown babies into societies they'll never fully understand.
While I shouldn't give any disclaimers, I would like to caveat this by saying that I am not against interracial relationships. However, in interracial situations where white women reproduce with Black men, it almost always appears that they didn't consider, that their brown children would spend their entire lives living in a world alternate theirs.
What's worse, is that not only do you not "know" about this parallel universe, but because of not knowing, you're sending your brown child into this space ill-equipped to comprehend, refute or dismantle hate.
Charlie's mother sent her to boarding school thinking that she could bypass prejudice if she was a good-nigger, if she pressed her hair, had the best education and rubbed elbows with them she could get by. While sneaking and trying on her Blackness during summer breaks like lipstick before you're allowed. Nervous that if she was to get caught in her Blackness that she would have to explain herself.
Spending her entire life trapped in the middle of two worlds, both of whom you're not fully accepted. This is where some Black ass truth comes into play, because none of us willing would choose to be oppressed. However, Charlie can't run from her Blackness, but she can run to it, and that appears to be both her and Micah's narrative. As Black people, we cannot even begin to understand where we are today, if we don't understand what history brought us to this space. Her run towards Blackness, if one of understanding and being connected to her roots.
In Black families, sex has to be one of the most taboo topics I've encountered. Regardless of the amount of rape, underaged pregnancies, and STI's plaguing our community. It's almost as if we're more comfortable performing the act itself, than talking about it. In my household, I didn't learn about the male or female reproductive system until sex-ed, and to this day, sex is still a fairly hush-hush topic, and we typically keep it 100. By being so uncomfortable we give the streets the time and space to miseducate our children about sex.
In episode 10, Micah made a remark to KeKe, that they had his dad's condo to theirselves, insinuating that they could do whatever they wanted to since they were alone. And KeKe, being well raised and wise beyond her years, noted that she wasn't interested, and wanted to wait until she was in love so that she doesn't regret her first time.
We coddle our Black boys, soften the blows of harsh truths, and build their ego's up to break our daughter's down. From a young age in many Black families, young Black men are encouraged to conquer women. Which perceivably could lend to some Black men not respecting us, and looking at us first as objects to fulfill their sexual desires, and as human beings second.
For our son's, we need to have those uncomfortable conversations about boundaries and what is truly means to respect Black women. For our daughter's they need to know how beautiful they are, how much they are loved, and that they simply deserve. Most importantly, in terms of sex our baby girls needs to understand that it should be on their terms. Holistically though, there needs to be some deep education on sexual health, consent, safety and the distinction between love and lust.
For the rest of the season I will be taking concepts and ideas from the show and unpacking them in terms of Blackness. New articles will be posted each Thursday, stay tuned.